That Feeling That Something's Missing, and How To Find It | Vinny Ferraro

How a 10-second pause can quiet the urge for more, why contentment comes through subtraction, not addition, and why a gratitude list alone can't fix the feeling.

Vinny Ferraro has practiced insight meditation (vipassanā) since the mid-90s. He's the Guiding Teacher of the Big Heart City Sangha in San Francisco and has led a weekly sitting group for almost two decades.

As a fully empowered Dharma Teacher thru Spirit Rock/IMS, he has taught residential retreats at various centers and currently, leads Spirit Rock's Year to Live course.

In this episode we talk about:

• Why no moment ever feels quite good enough
• Whether you actually need all that wanting to get things done
• How to tell healthy desire from the compulsive kind
• Why getting what you want so rarely delivers
• Why "why am I like this?" might be the wrong question
• How to stop turning other people's joy into a story about you
• Why gratitude lists can still leave you reaching
• How to turn a wandering mind into a ticker tape parade
• Why we dodge the present moment like an old drug dealer
• The ten-second pause you can slip into almost anywhere
• The two-word rule for deciding what to say yes to
• A walking phrase that makes everything feel panoramic
• What to do with the sadness of remembering it all ends

Related Episodes:

• Frank Ostaseski, What Death Can Teach Us About Living

Additional Resources:

• Vinny Ferraro's

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