S18 E24 - Friendship in the Lord: Covenant Love and Celibacy (Chapters 11 & 12, Epilogue)

In this episode, we conclude our book study on Friendship in the Lord and welcome Fr. John Burns, Founder of Friends of the Bridegroom, to the podcast. We reflect on our deep longing to be known and loved and the ways fear can cause us to cling to others or settle for lesser goods. We talk about hoping for the possibility of beautiful friendship, even when our own experience has been marked by loneliness, disappointment, or suffering. We also discuss the beauty of celibate friendship as a witness to the primacy of God's love, the role of feedback in relationships, and how the limitations we encounter in friendship ultimately reveal the deeper truth that we were made for God.

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Announcement:

• You can buy your copy of Friendship in the Lord from Ave Maria Press (or Amazon).

Journal Questions:

• How has God moved my heart through this book study?
• Where in my heart am I longing for more hope in my relationships?
• How has this book study given me more hope for more friendships?
• How am I avoiding suffering?
• What are my relational patterns when I experience joy? Shame? Suffering?
• How have I been tempted to idolize friendship by seeing a friend as my savior?

Discussion Questions:

• What has resonated with you in the book?
• How do you want to show up to your friendships differently?
• What would it look like to have hope in difficult or painful relationships?
• How are you seeking to grow in maturity in your friendships?

Quote to Ponder:

"There is no true love without reverence. And reverence is always tender." (Friendship in the Lord, Page 115)

Scripture for Lectio:

"He who has the bride is the bridegroom. The friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly at the bridegroom's voice. For this reason my joy has been fulfilled." (John 3:29)

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Timestamps: 00:00 Ave Maria Press

01:24 Intro

03:03 Scripture Verse and Guiding Quote

06:10 Appreciation and the Fear of Being Alone

10:19 Hope for What Friendship Can Be

14:01 The Fear of Suffering

20:14 Becoming Who We Are Meant to Be

28:05 Self-Knowledge in Friendship

30:24 The Beauty of Celibate Friendships

38:47 Encountering Loneliness

43:52 Seeing Another's Potential

48:17 Closing Prayer