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Why You Keep Snapping at the People You Love with Anna Mathur

45 min•3 september 2026

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The sharp words, the slammed drawer, the guilt that follows. If you've ever wondered how you became someone who snaps at the people you love most, this conversation is going to feel very familiar.

On this week's episode of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, I'm welcoming back psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur for a conversation that is honest, warm and full of the kind of insight you don't often get permission to sit with.

Anna is the author of multiple bestselling books and the host of The Therapy Edit podcast, which has reached over four million downloads. She's passionate about taking therapy beyond the consulting room and into the everyday moments where we actually need it most. Her new book, How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love (As Well As the Ones You Don't): A Compassionate Guide to Rage, Regulation and Repair, is out now, and we get into a lot of it here.

Anna and I talk about why snapping isn't a character flaw but a signal, what it's really communicating when everything feels like too much, and how so much of it connects to what we hold inside as women, as ADHD women, as people who were never really taught that anger was allowed. We also talk about hormones, perimenopause, sensory overwhelm, the cheese incident, WhatsApp groups, and why buying calm every day is not a luxury but a necessity.

Do also go back and listen to our previous conversation, which we'll link in the show notes, where we talked about burnout, exhaustion and holding it all together.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Why snapping and irritability are signals of overwhelm rather than signs of being a bad person
  • How the good girl conditioning many of us grew up with can turn unexpressed anger inward
  • Why women with ADHD and neurodivergent women often have a more activated nervous system as a baseline
  • The connection between perimenopause, hormonal shifts and rising irritability and sensory sensitivity
  • Why masking all day means the dysregulation has to go somewhere, often home
    How circumstantial overwhelm and internal stress create a perfect storm
  • The unspoken narratives and generational conditioning that keep us holding what isn't ours to hold
  • Why anger is not the enemy, and what happens when we finally listen to it
  • The difference between rage and snapping, and why shame makes it harder to process either
  • Practical ways to create circuit breakers across the day rather than relying on one big reset
  • Why co-regulation starts with us, and how to buy calm when you have nothing left
  • Anna's untangling framework from the book, and how to start befriending the anger rather than suppressing it
  • The importance of finding people and spaces where you can fully unmask

Timestamps:

  • 00:00 - Welcome and introducing Anna Mathur back to the podcast
  • 02:00 - What led Anna to write the book and why snapping shocked her so much
  • 05:00 - The pressure cooker: why it all has to come out somewhere
  • 08:00 - Viewing snapping through a neuro-affirming and hormonal lens
  • 11:00 - How perimenopause amplified sensory sensitivity for Kate and Anna
  • 14:00 - Circumstantial versus internal stress and why both matter
  • 17:00 - The unspoken truths, suppressed emotions and generational conditioning
  • 20:00 - The things we're not saying and how to start listening to that inner voice
  • 24:00 - Rewiring the cognitive narrative that keeps us agreeable at our own expense
  • 27:00 - Late diagnosis, masking and the dysregulation that comes home with us
  • 30:00 - Recognising your personal warning signs before the Richter scale tips
  • 34:00 - The WhatsApp group tipping point and what it's really about
  • 38:00 - How to buy calm: rest, joy, unmasking and snacking on regulation
  • 42:00 - Why co-regulation with our children starts with resourcing ourselves
  • 45:00 - Anna's untangling framework: befriending anger and finding grace in the mess

Links and Resources:

Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed women with ADHD find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity.

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