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3 - Toxic Shame, Slut Shaming & Being Gay When Your Dad is a Pastor

44 min • 14 april 2021

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In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into one of the most damaging repercussions of growing up in a dysfunctional family – toxic shame. We are talking about becoming the school slut in the 7th grade, being gay when your dad is a pastor, and what happens when shame becomes one’s identity.

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