Twin Mum Guilt: Why You Never Feel Like You're Doing Enough | With Psychologist & Twin Mum Mirinda Smith

You spend so much time imagining what motherhood will look like.

The coffee dates. The playgroups. The family outings. The version of motherhood you pictured in your head.

Then twins arrive, and suddenly the reality can feel very different.

In this episode, we're joined by psychologist and twin mum Mirinda Smith from Satya Psychology for an honest conversation about the parts of twin motherhood that often catch us off guard.

We discuss the grief that can come with letting go of the motherhood you expected, why so many twin mums feel like they're never doing enough, the mental load of raising multiples, overstimulation, mum guilt, identity shifts, and the pressure to constantly improve ourselves.

Most importantly, we explore a powerful idea that kept coming up throughout this conversation: what if you're not actually doing anything wrong?

Whether you're in the newborn trenches, chasing twin toddlers, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the weight of motherhood, this episode is a reminder that you're not alone, you're not failing, and you might be carrying far more than you realise.

In this episode we discuss:

• The reality of twin motherhood versus the expectations we carry into it
• Why mum guilt feels impossible to escape
• Overstimulation, rage and the mental load of raising twins
• The identity shift that happens when you become a mother
• Grieving the motherhood experience you thought you'd have
• Why acceptance can be more powerful than constantly trying to "fix" yourself
• Practical ways to support your mental health during the early years

We laughed, reflected, unpacked a few uncomfortable truths, and walked away with a few reminders we probably needed to hear ourselves.

Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples.

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