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Wendy’s Testimony, Rejected in the Bedroom, Haunted by Our Wedding Photos| ACW337

53 min • 16 juni 2025

I missed the 2020 online conference and Wendy’s talk that deeply interests me. Also, I couldn’t attend the Mary course you personally recommended—will there be another chance?
I long for intimacy, but my husband rejects my advances. It revives deep insecurities and leaves me lonely and ashamed. How do I carry this cross with love?
Seeing our wedding photos reminds us of how broken we were. How can we reclaim joy and see beauty in our beginning again?

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