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Ep. 99 - Helping Our PDA Children and Teens Build a Healthy Self Concept

25 min • 12 februari 2025

"Mama, did God make me this way on purpose?"

That's what my PDA son asked me when he was four years old, and it broke my heart.

But today, at age 10, he has a ton of confidence in himself and his identity as a PDAer.

In this episode I talk through how we got from the one place to the other, and how you can, too.

I hope it's helpful.

Casey

Mentioned in this episode:

Paradigm Shift Program

Senaste avsnitt

Ep. 121 - Parental Burnout and PDA

5 augusti | 49 min

Ep. 120 - Healthy Self-Concept for PDA Child or Teen

15 juli | 26 min

Ep. 119 - Life-Changing Impacts (for all) By Shifting How They Parented Their PDA Child

2 juli | 46 min

Ep. 110 - Speech Dude and I Talk School Accommodations for PDA Children and Teens

29 april | 73 min

Ep. 109 - My Conversation with Physician and Founder of All Brains Belong, Dr. Mel Houser

22 april | 58 min

Ep. 108 - 10 Tips to Improve Connection and Communication with your PDA Child or Teen

15 april | 28 min

Ep. 107 - 20 Things I'd Tell Myself About My PDA Child's Restrictive Eating

8 april | 39 min

Ep. 106 - Screens and Your PDA Child or Teen

1 april | 44 min

Ep. 105 - How to Know if Your Child or Teen is PDA

25 mars | 36 min

Ep. 104 - Harmful Myths About PDA in Children and Teens

18 mars | 39 min

Ep. 103 - Healing Your Nervous System as a Parent of a PDA Child or Teen

11 mars | 27 min

Ep. 102 - Six Things from Buddhist Psychology that Help Me Parent My PDA Child

4 mars | 38 min

Ep. 101 - The Biggest Surprise in 5 Years of Occupational Therapy with My PDA Son

25 februari | 22 min

Ep. 100 - What If My Partner Won't Accommodate Our PDA Child or Teen?

18 februari | 42 min

Ep. 99 - Helping Our PDA Children and Teens Build a Healthy Self Concept

12 februari | 25 min

Ep. 98 - What About When My PDA Child or Teen Grows Up?

4 februari | 39 min

Ep. 97 - Demi Burnett's Story as a PDA Autistic Adult

29 januari | 81 min

Ep. 96 - Could Making Your PDA Child Walk Prevent Them From Eating?

24 januari | 27 min

Ep. 95 - Where Parents, Therapists and Teachers of PDA Children and Teens Get Stuck

17 januari | 39 min

Ep. 94 - Normalizing PDA Parenting Techniques

9 januari | 33 min

Ep. 93 - Grief, Ableism and Other Diagnoses while Parenting Your PDA Child

3 januari | 48 min

Ep. 92 - Tips for Holiday Parenting Your PDA Child or Teen

18 december 2024 | 23 min

Ep. 91 - School Advocacy For Your PDA Child or Teen

12 december 2024 | 24 min

Ep. 90 - Offering Summer Camp to a PDA Child - An Alumni Story

5 december 2024 | 48 min

Ep. 89 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens so They Access Basic Needs

26 november 2024 | 34 min

Ep. 88 - Lowering Demands for Your PDA Child or Teen

15 november 2024 | 36 min

Ep. 87 - Controlling, Criticizing and Destructive Equalizing in PDA Children and Teens

7 november 2024 | 45 min

Ep. 86 - PDA en Español!

1 november 2024 | 63 min

Ep. 85 - If Your Co-Parent Wants Evidence of PDA

21 oktober 2024 | 33 min

Ep. 84 - Using Declarative Language with Your PDA Child or Teen

17 oktober 2024 | 29 min

Ep. 83 - Misconceptions on Setting Boundaries with a PDA Child or Teen

10 oktober 2024 | 40 min

Ep. 82 - Changing to a PDA Parenting Approach Can Be Awkward!

8 oktober 2024 | 31 min

Ep. 81 - Is ABA Really the Gold Standard for Our PDA Children?

3 oktober 2024 | 30 min

Ep. 80 - Can Therapies Help PDA Children and Teens?

30 september 2024 | 28 min

Ep. 79 - When and How Do You Correct Your PDA Child or Teen?

26 september 2024 | 32 min

Ep. 78 - Why Behavioral Approaches Don't Work With PDA Children and Teens

24 september 2024 | 26 min

Ep. 77 - From Solution Seeking to Decision Making While Parenting A PDA Child

19 september 2024 | 19 min

Ep. 76 - What the Lack of Research on PDA Means (and Doesn't Mean)

16 september 2024 | 14 min

Ep. 75 - Signaling Safety to Your PDA Child or Teen

12 september 2024 | 16 min

Ep. 74 - The 4S's of Nervous System Regulation for Your PDA Child or Teen

9 september 2024 | 13 min

Ep. 73 - Interview with Kelly Edwards: Unschooling Your PDA Child or Teen

5 september 2024 | 55 min

Ep. 72 - You Don't Have to Be Perfect!

3 september 2024 | 29 min

Ep. 71 - The Role of Intuition While Parenting a PDA Child or Teen

29 augusti 2024 | 26 min

Ep. 70 - Advocating With Your PDA Child or Teen's School

26 augusti 2024 | 52 min

Ep. 69 - What to do when your PDA child or teen is controlling, criticizing, swearing at you...?

19 augusti 2024 | 32 min

Ep. 68 - Externalized vs Internalized PDA

13 augusti 2024 | 24 min

Ep. 67 - Donna Georgen: Expert Coach for Parents of PDA Tweens, Teens and Young Adults

27 juli 2024 | 59 min

Ep. 66 - None of This is Your Fault! (Shame and Parenting a PDA Child or Teen)

17 juli 2024 | 25 min

Ep. 65 - What is it like to grow up as an internalized PDAer?

9 juli 2024 | 65 min

Ep. 64 - Parenting a PDA Child like Scientist Would

26 juni 2024 | 27 min

Ep. 63 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens Amidst OCD, Violence and Siblings with Dr. Alex Klein

20 juni 2024 | 65 min

Ep. 62 - Violence and Risk Mitigation Raising a PDA Child or Teen

14 juni 2024 | 28 min

Ep. 61 - Kendahl Damashek: Expert Coach for Parents of 2E PDAers

5 juni 2024 | 57 min

Ep. 60 - Polyvagal Theory and Parenting a PDA Child or Teen

28 maj 2024 | 31 min

Ep. 59 - Angry and Exhausted from Advocating for Your PDA Child? These ideas can help.

16 maj 2024 | 34 min

Ep. 58 - How Polyvagal Theory Explains Masking in PDA Children

10 maj 2024 | 29 min

Ep. 57 - Conversation with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical Psychologist

3 maj 2024 | 47 min

Ep. 56 - PDA Children Avoiding Writing and Drawing

24 april 2024 | 21 min

Ep. 55 - Boundaries vs Rules with Your PDA Child or Teen

12 april 2024 | 24 min

Ep. 54 - Play Therapy and PDA - A Conversation with Therapist Lauren Stern Noel

19 mars 2024 | 45 min

Ep. 53 - Parenting vs Caregiving for a PDA Child or Teen

12 mars 2024 | 19 min

Ep. 52 - Rhythms versus Routines when Parenting a PDA Child or Teen

4 mars 2024 | 15 min

Ep. 51 - Signalling Safety to Your PDA Child or Teen

26 februari 2024 | 30 min

Ep. 50 - Sensory Processing Disorder or Pathological Demand Avoidance?

23 februari 2024 | 23 min

Ep. 49 - Conversation with Lauren Stern Noel, Developmental Therapist (and great friend!)

14 februari 2024 | 46 min

Ep. 48 - Siblings and PDA (Again)

5 februari 2024 | 21 min

Ep. 47 - What skills do we need to parent our PDA children?

29 januari 2024 | 18 min

Ep. 46 - "Strewing" to Accommodate your PDA Child or Teen

24 januari 2024 | 24 min

Ep. 45 - First PDA Discussion with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical Psychologist

16 januari 2024 | 66 min

Ep. 44 - Five places parents get stuck

8 januari 2024 | 32 min

Ep. 43 - Guilt and second arrows as parents of PDA children

21 december 2023 | 29 min

Ep. 42 - Service Dogs and PDA

12 december 2023 | 20 min

Ep. 41 - PDA and Taking a Research Perspective

4 december 2023 | 13 min

Ep. 40 - If I accommodate now, what will happen when they grow up?

28 november 2023 | 31 min

Ep. 39 - Parenting through the holidays

21 november 2023 | 27 min

Ep. 38 - Is PDA on a spectrum?

13 november 2023 | 11 min

Ep. 37 - Let's talk about empathy

7 november 2023 | 12 min

Ep. 36 - Are you a PDA parent of a PDA child?

30 oktober 2023 | 17 min

Ep. 35 - 6 Tips for Making Halloween More Manageable for your Family.

24 oktober 2023 | 19 min

Ep. 34 - The fawn and freeze responses

23 oktober 2023 | 14 min

Ep. 33 - Behavioral approaches and why they don't work

17 oktober 2023 | 29 min

Ep. 32 - Is therapy good for PDA kids?

9 oktober 2023 | 17 min

Ep. 31 - What does it look like long term if we don't correct our children's "bad behavior"?

2 oktober 2023 | 39 min

Ep. 30 - Have you "radically accepted" your PDA child or teen?

27 september 2023 | 22 min

Ep. 29 - Can you "heal" Pathological Demand Avoidance?

18 september 2023 | 36 min

Ep. 28 - OCD, Anxiety or PDA?

8 september 2023 | 38 min

Ep. 27 - Is My Child PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?

3 augusti 2023 | 34 min

Ep. 26 - What is the difference between PDA and trauma?

15 juni 2023 | 20 min

Ep. 25 - Reframing Progress as a Parent of a PDA Child or Teen

6 juni 2023 | 15 min

Ep. 24 - Finding your unique PDA child or Teen's Edge.

23 maj 2023 | 10 min

Ep. 23 - Sticker Charts and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

25 april 2023 | 16 min

Ep. 22 - Timelines, Pre-PDA Awareness, and My Son's Burnout

20 april 2023 | 18 min

Ep. 21 - Marriage and Co-Parenting with a PDA Child or Teen

6 april 2023 | 24 min

Ep. 20 - Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) vs. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

27 mars 2023 | 26 min

Ep. 19 - Identity: Yours, Your Child's, and Mine

16 mars 2023 | 23 min

Ep. 18 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Hard to Understand? - Part II

8 mars 2023 | 29 min

Ep. 17 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Confusing? - Part I

6 mars 2023 | 14 min

Ep. 16 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

15 februari 2023 | 21 min

Ep. 15 - Siblings and PDA

26 januari 2023 | 33 min

Ep. 14 - Your "Secret" and "Inappropriate" Questions about PDA

18 januari 2023 | 26 min

Ep. 13 - The Three Stages Parents of PDA Children and Teens Go Through

12 januari 2023 | 21 min

Ep. 12 - Parenting a PDA Child or Teen with an Experimental Mindset

9 januari 2023 | 12 min

Ep. 11 - "Aren't You Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?"

28 december 2022 | 18 min

Ep. 10 - Masking, PDA Children and Teens, and YOU!

16 december 2022 | 17 min

Ep. 9 - How to Manage the Holidays with a PDA Child

8 december 2022 | 15 min

Ep. 8 - How do I know if my child is PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?

1 december 2022 | 13 min

Ep. 7 - 4 Ways to Support Your PDA Child's Nervous System

30 november 2022 | 13 min

Ep. 6 - What is a "Cognitive Loop" for a PDA Child or Teen?

29 november 2022 | 9 min

Ep. 5 - Grief and Radical Acceptance as a Parent of a PDA Child

29 november 2022 | 17 min

Ep. 4 - Boundaries and the PDA Child

21 november 2022 | 24 min

Ep. 3 - Rewards and Consquences and the PDA Child

16 november 2022 | 11 min

Ep. 2 - Supporting Eating for a PDA or Demand Avoidant Child

16 november 2022 | 24 min

Ep. 1 - Recognizing Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in an Educational Setting

15 november 2022 | 36 min

Ep. 99 - Helping Our PDA Children and Teens Build a Healthy Self Concept

Senaste avsnitt

Ep. 121 - Parental Burnout and PDA

Ep. 120 - Healthy Self-Concept for PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 119 - Life-Changing Impacts (for all) By Shifting How They Parented Their PDA Child

Ep. 118 - PDA, Screens, and AI - Oh My!

Ep. 117 - Is My Child PDA or Non-PDA Demand Avoidant?

Ep. 116 - Choosing Your Perspective While Parenting A PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 115 - Journey of a PDA Parent with a PDA Child

Ep. 114 - Is PDA always Autism?

Ep. 113 - You're Not Parenting Your PDAer Wrong!

Ep. 112 - Alumna Talks About Parenting PDA and Two Other Neurotypes

Ep. 111 - Compulsive Eating by Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 110 - Speech Dude and I Talk School Accommodations for PDA Children and Teens

Ep. 109 - My Conversation with Physician and Founder of All Brains Belong, Dr. Mel Houser

Ep. 108 - 10 Tips to Improve Connection and Communication with your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 107 - 20 Things I'd Tell Myself About My PDA Child's Restrictive Eating

Ep. 106 - Screens and Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 105 - How to Know if Your Child or Teen is PDA

Ep. 104 - Harmful Myths About PDA in Children and Teens

Ep. 103 - Healing Your Nervous System as a Parent of a PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 102 - Six Things from Buddhist Psychology that Help Me Parent My PDA Child

Ep. 101 - The Biggest Surprise in 5 Years of Occupational Therapy with My PDA Son

Ep. 100 - What If My Partner Won't Accommodate Our PDA Child or Teen?

Ep. 99 - Helping Our PDA Children and Teens Build a Healthy Self Concept

Ep. 98 - What About When My PDA Child or Teen Grows Up?

Ep. 97 - Demi Burnett's Story as a PDA Autistic Adult

Ep. 96 - Could Making Your PDA Child Walk Prevent Them From Eating?

Ep. 95 - Where Parents, Therapists and Teachers of PDA Children and Teens Get Stuck

Ep. 94 - Normalizing PDA Parenting Techniques

Ep. 93 - Grief, Ableism and Other Diagnoses while Parenting Your PDA Child

Ep. 92 - Tips for Holiday Parenting Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 91 - School Advocacy For Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 90 - Offering Summer Camp to a PDA Child - An Alumni Story

Ep. 89 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens so They Access Basic Needs

Ep. 88 - Lowering Demands for Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 87 - Controlling, Criticizing and Destructive Equalizing in PDA Children and Teens

Ep. 86 - PDA en Español!

Ep. 85 - If Your Co-Parent Wants Evidence of PDA

Ep. 84 - Using Declarative Language with Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 83 - Misconceptions on Setting Boundaries with a PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 82 - Changing to a PDA Parenting Approach Can Be Awkward!

Ep. 81 - Is ABA Really the Gold Standard for Our PDA Children?

Ep. 80 - Can Therapies Help PDA Children and Teens?

Ep. 79 - When and How Do You Correct Your PDA Child or Teen?

Ep. 78 - Why Behavioral Approaches Don't Work With PDA Children and Teens

Ep. 77 - From Solution Seeking to Decision Making While Parenting A PDA Child

Ep. 76 - What the Lack of Research on PDA Means (and Doesn't Mean)

Ep. 75 - Signaling Safety to Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 74 - The 4S's of Nervous System Regulation for Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 73 - Interview with Kelly Edwards: Unschooling Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 72 - You Don't Have to Be Perfect!

Ep. 71 - The Role of Intuition While Parenting a PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 70 - Advocating With Your PDA Child or Teen's School

Ep. 69 - What to do when your PDA child or teen is controlling, criticizing, swearing at you...?

Ep. 68 - Externalized vs Internalized PDA

Ep. 67 - Donna Georgen: Expert Coach for Parents of PDA Tweens, Teens and Young Adults

Ep. 66 - None of This is Your Fault! (Shame and Parenting a PDA Child or Teen)

Ep. 65 - What is it like to grow up as an internalized PDAer?

Ep. 64 - Parenting a PDA Child like Scientist Would

Ep. 63 - Parenting PDA Children and Teens Amidst OCD, Violence and Siblings with Dr. Alex Klein

Ep. 62 - Violence and Risk Mitigation Raising a PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 61 - Kendahl Damashek: Expert Coach for Parents of 2E PDAers

Ep. 60 - Polyvagal Theory and Parenting a PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 59 - Angry and Exhausted from Advocating for Your PDA Child? These ideas can help.

Ep. 58 - How Polyvagal Theory Explains Masking in PDA Children

Ep. 57 - Conversation with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical Psychologist

Ep. 56 - PDA Children Avoiding Writing and Drawing

Ep. 55 - Boundaries vs Rules with Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 54 - Play Therapy and PDA - A Conversation with Therapist Lauren Stern Noel

Ep. 53 - Parenting vs Caregiving for a PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 52 - Rhythms versus Routines when Parenting a PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 51 - Signalling Safety to Your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 50 - Sensory Processing Disorder or Pathological Demand Avoidance?

Ep. 49 - Conversation with Lauren Stern Noel, Developmental Therapist (and great friend!)

Ep. 48 - Siblings and PDA (Again)

Ep. 47 - What skills do we need to parent our PDA children?

Ep. 46 - "Strewing" to Accommodate your PDA Child or Teen

Ep. 45 - First PDA Discussion with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical Psychologist

Ep. 44 - Five places parents get stuck

Ep. 24 - Finding your unique PDA child or Teen's Edge.