Episode 310: Desiring God Thinks Marriage Is Like Peddling Furiously on the Back of a Tandem Bike

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We're kicking off 2026 by teaching you how to think critically about Christian marriage and relationship advice! Rebecca and I walk through some really problematic articles and social media posts - from the Gospel Coalition's piece against therapy to Tilly Dillehay’s tandem bike marriage metaphor - and show you exactly why they make us feel unsafe. We'll teach you how to spot red flags, question who benefits from this advice, and why prioritizing your safety and discernment isn't selfish - it's Biblical.

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• The Desiring God article on tandem bikes
• The Gospel Coalition article on therapy
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