ADHD Moms, Rage & Identity Loss: The Truth About Matrescence with Sami Garrett | Good Enough Motherhood

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Motherhood changed you. ADHD amplified it.

In this powerful episode of Chaos & Caffeine, I sit down with Sami Garrett, founder of Good Enough Matrescence, to unpack the identity shift no one prepared us for: matrescence.

If you’re an ADHD mom who feels overwhelmed, overstimulated, emotionally reactive, burned out, or quietly grieving who you used to be — this conversation will hit deep.

We talk about:

• What matrescence actually is (and why it matters for ADHD mothers)
• Postpartum rage, perfectionism, and nervous system burnout
• Why ADHD moms feel like they’re failing before 9 a.m.
• The mental load, executive dysfunction, and emotional regulation struggles of motherhood
• How to move from shame to self-compassion
• What “good enough motherhood” really means in a neurodivergent household

Sami shares her personal story of postpartum trauma and how she turned her healing journey into a powerful community supporting mothers navigating identity loss, resentment, overstimulation, and the invisible labor of parenting.

If you’ve ever Googled:
 “Why am I so angry as a mom?”
 “Is ADHD making motherhood harder?”
 “Why do I feel lost after having kids?”
 “ADHD mom burnout help”

This episode is for you.

This is part of our New Year, Less Chaos series — where we stop pretending we’re fine and start building sustainable support systems for neurodivergent families.

🎧 Listen now and send this to another ADHD mom who needs to hear: you are not broken — you are becoming.

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Danielle is the host of Chaos & Caffeine, a fast-growing ADHD parenting podcast where she interviews leading psychologists, clinicians, researchers, and neurodivergent advocates about what actually helps ADHD kids thrive in the real world. Through science-backed conversations and very real mom-in-the-trenches storytelling, the show helps parents navigate executive function challenges, emotional regulation struggles, learning differences, and the everyday chaos of raising neurodivergent kids.

Each week, Danielle translates complex ADHD research into practical tools parents can actually use — from building routines that support developing brains to helping kids strengthen focus, flexibility, and self-regulation skills.

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Danielle frequently speaks and writes about ADHD parenting strategies, executive function development, emotional regulation, screen use and attention, learning challenges like dyslexia, and building resilient neurodivergent families.