ADHD Parenting & Self-Havening Tools with Hilary Russo | Emotional Regulation for Exhausted Moms

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Tired of white-knuckling it through your kid’s ADHD meltdowns while running on fumes, cold coffee, and guilt? Same, girl. Same. 

In this raw, real AF episode of Chaos & Caffeine, I sit down with the incredible Hilary Russo—Certified Havening Techniques® Practitioner, holistic health coach, trauma-informed care educator, and one of New Jersey’s Top 3 Alternative Medicine Practitioners in 2024. 

We’re diving into the gritty realities of parenting a child with ADHD (yes, including the “why are your shoes in the freezer” moments), and how techniques like Self-Havening® can help us regulate our own emotional chaos before we spiral alongside our kids. 

We talk executive dysfunction, generational trauma, emotional dysregulation, and how overstimulated parents can create calmer homes without becoming crunchy crystal cult leaders (unless that’s your thing, then bless). 

💥 Hilary shares actionable tools, brain science (without putting us to sleep), and inspiring stories from the frontlines of her healing practice. 

☕️ Grab your mug, lock yourself in the bathroom if you have to, and press play. This one’s for the parents who are trying their damn best. 

Listen to learn: 

• How to stop spiraling during your kid’s ADHD meltdown
• What Self-Havening® actually is and why it works
• How to break generational cycles of trauma with your child
• Tools for regulating your nervous system without another app or Pinterest board

🧠 ADHD parenting doesn’t come with a manual—but this episode comes pretty close.

Connect with Hilary 👉

Havening Happy Hours 

https://www.hilaryrusso.com/events

Havening Trainings and Certifications
https://www.hilaryrusso.com/training 

HUG it Out 5 Day Challenge
https://www.hilaryrusso.com/5daychallenge

https://hilisticallyspeaking.com/
https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso

https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilaryrusso
https://www.facebook.com/HIListicallySpeaking

🔥 Resources Mentioned:

This Month’s Sponsor: Play Therapy Supply! They offer incredible products designed to support ADHD families, from sensory tools to therapeutic games that help kids thrive. Check out their fantastic selection at playtherapysupply.com!

🛑 PRODUCT OF THE WEEK:  Parenting Simply by Adina Soclof — a gentle, doable intro to positive parenting with rave reviews from parents, bloggers, and experts alike. Check the show notes for the link and why I recommend it to every ADHD parent I coach.

Could Therapy be the Answer? OnlineTherapy.com—because let’s be real, even superheroes like you need a sidekick. Click here to connect with a licensed therapist and start feeling like the rockstar parent you are.

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Danielle is the host of Chaos & Caffeine, a fast-growing ADHD parenting podcast where she interviews leading psychologists, clinicians, researchers, and neurodivergent advocates about what actually helps ADHD kids thrive in the real world. Through science-backed conversations and very real mom-in-the-trenches storytelling, the show helps parents navigate executive function challenges, emotional regulation struggles, learning differences, and the everyday chaos of raising neurodivergent kids.

Each week, Danielle translates complex ADHD research into practical tools parents can actually use — from building routines that support developing brains to helping kids strengthen focus, flexibility, and self-regulation skills.

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Danielle frequently speaks and writes about ADHD parenting strategies, executive function development, emotional regulation, screen use and attention, learning challenges like dyslexia, and building resilient neurodivergent families.