What Do I Call My Child's Birth Mother? - Weekend Wisdom

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Question: My husband and I are in the process of growing our family through adoption. It would be a domestic infant adoption, and we are hoping to cultivate a long-term relationship with the future baby’s birth family. I noticed that whenever I feel hesitation when thinking about openness, I can bring myself back down to earth by recognizing that any hesitation results from making things about ME, not the baby or birth family. 

The one question I can’t seem to navigate on my own is this...what do adopted children call their birth mothers? How do I, as a future adoptive mom, refer to the baby’s birth mom? I want to respect the baby and birth mom; any insight on how families handle this would be so helpful! 

Resources:

• What Does Your Child Call Her Birth Mother?
• 5 Tips for Navigating Sticky Situations with Birth Parents
• Positive Adoption Language & Why It Matters 

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