chapter 1: anxious, avoidant, academic

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What does your attachment style look like when your PI goes silent on your manuscript? In this episode, Ardiana, Burcu, and Mirna dive into attachment theory - anxious, avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure - and explore how these patterns show up not in romantic relationships, but in the lab. They share their own quiz results, reflect on how their PhD experiences shaped (and shifted) their styles, and get honest about the moments they felt triggered, overlooked, or just desperate for a "great work" from their supervisor. From toxic PIs and visa traps to dancing at conference parties and asking for weekly check-ins, this conversation goes deep on what it really means to feel safe - or not - in academia.

Take the quiz on Instagram to find out your academic attachment style.