Abby: Grief, Love, & Ilya Rozanov

In this episode, we sit down with grief doula, death tender, and writer Abby Goelzer to explore grief through the lens of Heated Rivalry and Ilya’s journey. Abby introduces us to Francis Weller’s “Five Gates of Grief” and uses the framework to unpack Ilya’s losses. We discuss how grief isn’t limited to losing a person, but can come from losing an identity, a future we imagined, a version of ourselves, or the life we thought we would have. The conversation also touches on the particular grief many Heated Rivalry fans experience when the show awakens questions about youth, missed possibilities and opportunities, and whether it’s too late to create a different life.

Find Abby:

Threads: @aelepants

IG: @garnet_andthe_moon

substack: https://garnetandthemoon.substack.com/

website: garnetandthemoon.com

essay: https://garnetandthemoon.substack.com/p/did-you-hear-about-rozanov

Abby has a specific offering for folks who want to sort through the grief that came up for them because of Heated Rivalry, which you can find on her website listed above.