189 | building a neuro-inclusive family through couples therapy with Dr. Ali

 ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇

In this episode, Dr. Tay delves into the underexplored topic of couples therapy within the autism community, emphasizing its proactive rather than reactive use. Joined by Dr. Ali Perkinson, a neurodiverse couples therapist and licensed psychologist, the discussion covers how couples therapy can support harmonious family dynamics, understanding neurodiverse communication styles, and breaking down stigmas around couples therapy. Dr. Ali shares insights from her practice, highlighting the importance of co-regulation between parents and addressing executive functioning differences. The episode also offers practical tools such as the emotion wheel and the significance of sensory management, aiming to equip parents with strategies that can foster a more neuro-inclusive household.

00:00 Introduction to Couples Therapy in Autism Parenting

00:50 Meet Dr. Ali: Neurodiverse Couples Therapist

02:22 Understanding Neurodiverse Relationships

03:13 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Couples

07:15 Common Reasons Couples Seek Therapy

08:25 Proactive vs. Crisis Couples Therapy

10:56 Navigating New Autism Diagnoses as a Family

20:28 Tools and Tips for Neurodiverse Families

22:44 The Importance of Venting in Relationships

22:56 The Fixer Mentality: Strengths and Pitfalls

23:45 Alternative Date Night Ideas for Neurodiverse Couples

24:21 Co-Regulation and Physical Activities

24:54 Therapeutic Modalities for Couples

26:20 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy

30:32 Addressing Executive Dysfunction in Relationships

34:18 Understanding Neurodiverse Love Languages

38:01 The Value of Couples Therapy

40:14 Final Thoughts and Resources

RESOURCES

⚡️ connect with Dr. Ali on Instagram @connectingwithali and learn more about her practice Connection Squared

⚡️ resource to find a neurodiverse couples therapist or coach

⚡️ learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current clinical services offered as well as her new educational membership? visit drtaylorday.com

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