Should You Tell Your Partner About Your Sexual Fantasies?

Sharing what turns you on with a partner can be scary. But it can also be hot, and emotionally rewarding.

This episode dives into one of the most common but rarely spoken fears in long-term relationships: what will happen if I share what I fantasize about? We unpack a fascinating new study on why people do (and don’t) share their sexual fantasies with partners — and the surprising gap between what people fear will happen, and what actually does.

We'll cover:

• Why fear of judgment often outweighs the actual risk
• The five most common reasons people keep fantasies private
• How to explore whether sharing is right for you, using my free, step-by-step exercise

The study covered in this episode is: A Content Analysis of Reasons for Disclosing Sexual Fantasies and Partner Responses by Kimberley et al., published in The Journal of Sex Research.

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