You got clear headed. You stopped chasing.You’re doing everything “right.” So why does it still feel so empty? In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB responds to two voicemails from listeners who are deep in the in-between - not who they used to be, but not quite who they’re becoming.
We unpack:
- The loneliness of sobriety and self-respect
- Why healing often feels like rejection
- How to stop mistaking stillness for failure
- What to do when you feel like you’re doing all the work and still hurting.
If you're healing, and still feel lost — this one is for you.
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- Voicemail #1: Healing After a Breakup & Sobriety. 6-month post-breakup reflection. Choosing sobriety (53 days). Struggling with loneliness, boredom, and emotional flatness. Navigating life post-relationship and post-drinking.
- JB’s Response: This Isn’t Emptiness — It’s Transition. "You feel rejected, but you’re actually being refined." The ache of doing everything ‘right’ and still hurting. Sobriety is subtraction before it's clarity. AA, routine, and rediscovering joy on the other side of stillness.
- Reframing Healing: You're Not Behind. “You’re not broken. You’re just finally sober enough to feel.” The danger of comparing your healing to someone else’s highlight reel. Why stillness doesn’t mean stuck.
- Voicemail #2: Feeling Like You’re Always the Problem. Self-doubt from past patterns. Wanting healthy love but attracting rejection. Over-identifying with the pain.
- JB’s Response: The Mirror Theory. We reflect how we feel about ourselves. Rejection isn’t always rejection — sometimes it’s protection. Gentle truth: how we treat ourselves teaches others how to treat us. “You’re not too much. You’ve just never been fully seen.”
- Final Word: What to Remember When You’re Doing the Work" Just because it hurts doesn’t mean it’s not working."What to do in the in-between. You’re not stuck — you’re shedding.