Treat Them with Respect

The Torah is the beginning of parashat Ekev promises the most beautiful rewards to those who adhere to the mitzvot . Rashi writes there that the Torah is speaking about the mitzvot that people trample upon and don't give enough respect to. Every mitzvah is such a treasure and, unfortunately, sometimes we take them for granted and don't treat them with the respect that is befitting them. Recently, a student of mine told me that he had allocated money for tzedaka and asked me if I could recommend a few people to give to. I thought of a friend of mine who is a mashgiach in a yeshiva in Israel and has a very large family. I knew he needed the help. I called to tell him of the money he was going to receive and he said, very excitedly, "Baruch Hashem, there's more to this story," which he proceeded to share with me. He said, like many others he is struggling with parnasa and on Shabbat Parashat Ekev , he read a story about a man who was also struggling with parnasa and he took upon himself to say Birkat HaMazon with kavana and very quickly his fortunes changed. My friend said to himself after reading that story, he had not been treating Birkat HaMazon the way it should be treated. He generally looks to avoid eating hamotzi and prefers mezonot instead. He felt like that was an insult to Birkat HaMazon . So from that day forward, he accepted upon himself not only to have more kavana when saying it, but to make sure to eat bread for breakfast every single day and have the zechut to say Birkat HaMazon . His wife is an excellent school teacher, but hasn't been able to find a job for the last three years, partly because schools generally want teachers there by 8:00 am, but because he has to be in yeshiva early, she has to send the little children off to school and can't start work until 9:00. Eight days after his kabbala , his wife received a phone call from a school asking if she would be willing to be their 5 th grade teacher for this year. This was on September 1, just days before school was starting. She told them she would love to but she wouldn't be able to get there until 9:00. Because they needed her so badly, they accepted her anyway. And just like that, after three long years, she had a great job. A few days after that is when I called him and told him out of nowhere he was getting thousands of dollars. That's when he told me about his kabbala to say Birkat HaMazon with kavana and to stop trampling on it and give it the respect it deserves. He added that last week his wife went to a resume specialist to see if she could somehow improve hers. The specialist told her she did it all wrong and would never get a job with that resume. She didn't even get a chance to fix it yet and, with the poor resume, she still got that job. Our mitzvot are wondrous. The more respect we treat them with, the more blessing we get in return.