Repairing the Damage After a Fight

 Doug shares 5 steps to repair the damage after a big fight or regrettable incident.

 

Listener questions and comments:

• Monica - My father doesn’t get enough credit for what he does. What should I do, and what is my place in that? (20:50)
• Teresa - My daughter is going through stuff with her husband, and he suggested that maybe he should just kill himself rather than fix things. He has been yelling at her and losing his temper. They have a baby, a dog, and a house and are very stressed. (37:18)
• Elly - My husband and I had an argument, and after we came back together, he told me to 'go to hell,' and it’s been very hard, and it still hurts me. (46:12)

 

Resources:

The 4 Horsemen

1. Criticism
2. Contempt
3. Stonewalling
4. Defensiveness

5 steps to repair the damage after a big fight

1. Discuss your feelings
2. Talk about your realities
3. Share your triggers
4. Accept your responsibility
5. Come up with constructive solutions