What couples should know before marriage

Doug continues to unpack 13 things marriage therapists wish couples knew before they got married.

 

Listener questions and comments:

• Don - My wife has told me that I've become jaded because of the gross work I do as a paramedic. I feel like I can't share that stuff with my wife because she shouldn’t be subject to it. She feels alienated. (18:04)
• Richard - My wife left me for our marriage therapist. How do I find a good therapist in the future? (45:44)

 

Resources:

 

Catholic Therapists

https://catholictherapists.com/

 

Catholic Psychotherapy

https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

 

Hold Me Tight

https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X

 

Rebuilding Trust

https://relevantradio.com/2026/01/rebuilding-trust/

 

 

Things therapists wish you knew

1. Marriage isn’t a fix for a broken relationship
2. Love isn’t all you need
3. You’re marrying their family too
4. Conflict is inevitable in every relationship
5. Financial compatibility is critical
6. Intimacy fades over time
7. Your partner can’t fulfill all your needs
8. Baggage doesn’t unpack itself
9. You’re going to change and so will your partner
10. Shared goals are essential
11. Communication styles matter
12. Routine can be a double-edged sword
13. Marriage is not always 50/50