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Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy Morin

226 — Why Life Feels Out of Control (and 5 Steps to Take Charge)

22 min • 4 juli 2025

How much control do you have over your life? Do you think life happens to you? Or do you believe you have the power to shape it?

On this episode of Mentally Stronger, we’re exploring the psychology of control, also known as "locus of control." Your belief about who or what is in control of your life has a huge impact on your mental strength.

Understanding it can help you make better decisions, respond to challenges, and find more balance.

Some of the things I share are:

What locus of control is and how it develops.
The difference between internal and external locus of control.
Why having too much control can backfire and the downsides to not believing you have enough control.
The surprising ways our beliefs about control influence our mental health and relationships.
A quiz to help you find out where you fall on the control spectrum.
5 strategies that will you start taking control of what really matters while letting go of the rest

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