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185. Do You Need Closure?

38 min • 3 mars 2024

What’s the best way to carry out random acts of kindness? What’s wrong with making an “Irish exit”? And why is Mike secretly buying lottery tickets?

SOURCES:
- Roy Baumeister, social psychologist and visiting scholar at Harvard University.
- Daniel Gilbert, professor of psychology at Harvard University.
- John Gottman, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington.
- Kurt Lewin, 20th-century German-American psychologist.
- E. J. Masicampo, professor of psychology at Wake Forest University.
- Timothy Wilson, professor of psychology at the University of Virginia.
- Bluma Zeigarnik, 20th-century Soviet psychologist.

RESOURCES:
- "Life and Work of the Psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik," by M. Marco (Neurosciences and History, 2018).
- "Why We Need Answers," by Maria Konnikova (The New Yorker, 2013).
- "Consider It Done! Plan Making Can Eliminate the Cognitive Effects of Unfulfilled Goals," by E. J. Masicampo and Roy Baumeister (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2011).
- The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples, by John Gottman (2011).
- "'Let Me Dream On!' Anticipatory Emotions and Preference for Timing in Lotteries," by Martin Kocher, Michal Krawczyk, and Frans van Winden (Tinbergen Institute Discussion Paper, 2009).
- "Explaining Away: A Model of Affective Adaptation," by Timothy Wilson and Daniel Gilbert (Perspectives on Psychological Science, 2008).
- "On Finished and Unfinished Tasks," by Bluma Zeigarnik (A Source Book of Gestalt Psychology, 1938).

EXTRAS:
- Big Five Personality Inventory, by No Stupid Questions (2024).
- "Can We Disagree Better?" by No Stupid Questions (2023).
- "Would You Be Happier if You Were More Creative?" by No Stupid Questions (2023).
- "How Can You Be Kinder to Yourself?" by No Stupid Questions (2023).
- "What’s Wrong With Holding a Grudge?" by No Stupid Questions (2022).
- Somebody Loves You, Mr. Hatch, by Eileen Spinelli (1991).

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185. Do You Need Closure?

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30. Why Do We Seek Comfort in the Familiar?

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28. Why Do We Hoard?

27. How Should You Ask for Forgiveness?

26. Do Checklists Make People Stupid?

25. Is Hedonism Better Than Self-Control?

24. Why Do We Forget So Much of What We’ve Read?

23. Is It Wrong to Crave Praise?

22. Why Do We Buy Things We’ll Never Use?

21. How Can You Identify Hidden Talent? With Eric Schmidt.

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19. Is There Such a Thing as Good Estrangement?

18. How Do You Raise a “Likable” Kid?

17. How Can We Get More Virtue and Less ‘Virtue Signaling’?

16. What’s the Downside to Being Goal-Oriented?

15. How Much of Your Life Do You Actually Control?

14. Are You a Maximizer or a Satisficer?

13. How Can You Stop Comparing Yourself With Other People?

12. Does “As If” Thinking Really Work?

11. Are Ambitious People Inherently Selfish?

10. Why Are Stories Stickier Than Statistics?

9. Why Is It So Hard to Be Alone With Our Thoughts?

8. Wouldn’t It Be Better to Hear Your Eulogy Before You’re Dead?

7. How Do You Handle Criticism?

6. Is Incompetence a Form of Dishonesty?

5. What Do Tom Sawyer and the Founder of Duolingo Have in Common?

4. Does All Creativity Come From Pain?

3. What Does It Mean to Be a “Hard Worker”?

2. What is the Optimal Way to Be Angry?

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223. What About All the Questions We Haven’t Answered?

222. What Makes an Idea Interesting?

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221. Why Are We So Pessimistic?

220. Is Your Attention Span Shrinking?

219. How Do You Identify a Narcissist?

How Can You Give Better Gifts? (Replay)

218. Why Do Parents Overshare on Social Media?

217. What Happens When You Put on a Costume?

216. Why Do We Make Excuses?

215. Is It Okay to Do the Right Thing for the Wrong Reason?

214. What Does It Take to Survive a Scandal?

Why Do People Love Horror Movies? (Replay)

213. What Is Evil?

212. When Do You Become an Adult?

211. Why Do We Listen to Sad Songs?

210. What Makes a Good Sense of Humor?

Why Are Stories Stickier Than Statistics? (Replay)

209. Why Do We Settle?

208. Can A.I. Companions Replace Human Connection?

207. How Clearly Do You See Yourself?

Why Do People Get Scammed? (Replay)

206. When Is It Time to Step Aside?

205. Where Do Values Come From?

204. What Happens When You’re Cut Off From All Human Contact?

203. Do You Need a Hug?

How Effective Are Ultimatums? (Replay)

202. Why Can’t We Tolerate Discomfort?

201. Are You Dreaming Too Big?

200. What’s the Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy?

199. What Makes a Good Gathering?

198. What Does It Mean to Be “Cool”?

197. Is It Wrong to Lie to Children?

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196. What’s Wrong With Being a Little Neurotic?

195. Can You Be Too Nice?

194. Is It Okay to Be an Introvert?

193. Are You as Conscientious as You Think You Are?

Should You Get Out of Your Comfort Zone?

191. Can You Change Your Personality?

190. What’s the Point of Nostalgia?

189. When Should You Trust Your Gut?

188. Why Do Kids Today Get So Many A’s?

187. Is Fear Running Your Life?

186. Do You Need a Routine?

185. Do You Need Closure?