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195. Can You Be Too Nice?

39 min • 12 maj 2024

Where is the line between a good guy and a doormat? Do people with sharp elbows make more money? And why did Angela’s mother give away her birthday present?

Take the Big Five inventory: freakonomics.com/bigfive

SOURCES:
- Kristen Bell, actor.
- Jeff Bezos, founder and executive chairman of Amazon.
- Harry Connick Jr., singer, pianist, and actor.
- Juli Fraga, psychologist and writer.
- Adam Grant, professor of management and psychology at the University of Pennsylvania.
- Allison Sweet Grant, writer.
- Timothy Judge, chair of the department of Management and Human Resources at The Ohio State University.
- Frank Jacobs, journalist and columnist at Big Think.
- Beth Livingston, professor of industrial relations at the University of Iowa.
- Topher Payne, playwright and screenwriter.
- Dax Shepard, actor and podcast host.

RESOURCES:
- "Are You a Chronic People-Pleaser? Here’s How to Be Kinder to Yourself," by Juli Fraga (The Washington Post, 2023).
- "Geopsychology: Your Personality Depends on Where You Live," by Frank Jacobs (Big Think, 2023).
- "We Need to Talk About ‘The Giving Tree,'" by Adam Grant and Allison Sweet Grant (The New York Times, 2020).
- The Tree Who Set Healthy Boundaries, by Topher Payne (2020).
- "Do as You’re Told! Facets of Agreeableness and Early Adult Outcomes for Inner-City Boys," by Margaret Kern, Angela Duckworth, Sergio Urzúa, Rolf Loeber, Magda Stouthamer-Loeber, and Donald Lynam (Journal of Research in Personality, 2013).
- Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success, by Adam Grant (2013).
- "Do Nice Guys — and Gals — Really Finish Last? The Joint Effects of Sex and Agreeableness on Income," by Timothy Judge and Beth Livingston (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2012).

EXTRAS:
- Big Five Personality Inventory, by No Stupid Questions (2024).
- “Personality: The Big Five,” series by No Stupid Questions (2024).
- "Are You Suffering From Burnout?" by No Stupid Questions (2023).

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195. Can You Be Too Nice?

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26. Do Checklists Make People Stupid?

25. Is Hedonism Better Than Self-Control?

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23. Is It Wrong to Crave Praise?

22. Why Do We Buy Things We’ll Never Use?

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19. Is There Such a Thing as Good Estrangement?

18. How Do You Raise a “Likable” Kid?

17. How Can We Get More Virtue and Less ‘Virtue Signaling’?

16. What’s the Downside to Being Goal-Oriented?

15. How Much of Your Life Do You Actually Control?

14. Are You a Maximizer or a Satisficer?

13. How Can You Stop Comparing Yourself With Other People?

12. Does “As If” Thinking Really Work?

11. Are Ambitious People Inherently Selfish?

10. Why Are Stories Stickier Than Statistics?

9. Why Is It So Hard to Be Alone With Our Thoughts?

8. Wouldn’t It Be Better to Hear Your Eulogy Before You’re Dead?

7. How Do You Handle Criticism?

6. Is Incompetence a Form of Dishonesty?

5. What Do Tom Sawyer and the Founder of Duolingo Have in Common?

4. Does All Creativity Come From Pain?

3. What Does It Mean to Be a “Hard Worker”?

2. What is the Optimal Way to Be Angry?

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222. What Makes an Idea Interesting?

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221. Why Are We So Pessimistic?

220. Is Your Attention Span Shrinking?

219. How Do You Identify a Narcissist?

How Can You Give Better Gifts? (Replay)

218. Why Do Parents Overshare on Social Media?

217. What Happens When You Put on a Costume?

216. Why Do We Make Excuses?

215. Is It Okay to Do the Right Thing for the Wrong Reason?

214. What Does It Take to Survive a Scandal?

Why Do People Love Horror Movies? (Replay)

213. What Is Evil?

212. When Do You Become an Adult?

211. Why Do We Listen to Sad Songs?

210. What Makes a Good Sense of Humor?

Why Are Stories Stickier Than Statistics? (Replay)

209. Why Do We Settle?

208. Can A.I. Companions Replace Human Connection?

207. How Clearly Do You See Yourself?

Why Do People Get Scammed? (Replay)

206. When Is It Time to Step Aside?

205. Where Do Values Come From?

204. What Happens When You’re Cut Off From All Human Contact?

203. Do You Need a Hug?

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202. Why Can’t We Tolerate Discomfort?

201. Are You Dreaming Too Big?

200. What’s the Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy?

199. What Makes a Good Gathering?

198. What Does It Mean to Be “Cool”?

197. Is It Wrong to Lie to Children?

Extra: Angela Duckworth on “Masters of Scale”

196. What’s Wrong With Being a Little Neurotic?

195. Can You Be Too Nice?

194. Is It Okay to Be an Introvert?

193. Are You as Conscientious as You Think You Are?

Should You Get Out of Your Comfort Zone?

191. Can You Change Your Personality?

190. What’s the Point of Nostalgia?

189. When Should You Trust Your Gut?

188. Why Do Kids Today Get So Many A’s?

187. Is Fear Running Your Life?

186. Do You Need a Routine?

185. Do You Need Closure?