E207 The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong

Ready for our go-to masterclass on one of the most overlooked (but absolutely essential) parts of intimacy?

We’re bringing back one of our most downloaded episodes of all time — and trust us, it’s worth a re-listen (or a first-time bender if you’re new around here).

Foreplay — the most misunderstood, rushed-through, and skipped-over part of sex. But here’s the truth: foreplay isn’t optional. It’s not just a warm-up. It’s the whole damn vibe.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the 5 biggest mistakes couples make when it comes to foreplay — and how to turn things around so it actually feels good (for both of you).

Here’s what we’re diving into:

• Why “just get to the point” is killing the vibe

• What makes receiving foreplay so hard (especially for women — hi, it’s not your fault)

• The most common foreplay ruts we all fall into

• How to make foreplay fun again — not forced, awkward, or performative

• A mindset shift that will change how you think about sex forever

Whether you’re feeling stuck, unsure what your partner wants, or just ready for a heck of a lot more pleasure… this episode is your permission slip.

Links & Resources:

🔥 The Ultimate Foreplay Guides ➡︎ https://buy.vmtherapy.com/ultimate-foreplay-guides?ref=podcast-207&utm_term=podcast-207

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