Unleashing Desire: Exploring Polyamory, Kink & Exhibitionism | Alternative Sexuality

In this episode of the Please Me Podcast, Eve sits down with Anneke Elmhirst, relationship & sexuality coach specializing in polyamory, kink, and neurodivergent relationship dynamics, to explore the foundations and realities of ethical non-monogamy.

Together, they unpack what polyamory actually looks like beyond the stereotypes, breaking down different relationship structures such as kitchen table polyamory, parallel polyamory, and hierarchical arrangements. Anneke shares how these models can help people design relationships that align with their values, needs, and emotional capacity, rather than defaulting to traditional monogamous norms.

The conversation also explores the concept of “infinite love” and how expanding our understanding of connection can reshape jealousy, attachment, and intimacy. Eve and Anneke discuss how communication, honesty, and emotional awareness are essential in building sustainable ethical non-monogamous relationships.

Anneke also explains how coaching differs from therapy, especially when working with clients navigating shame, desire, and alternative relationship styles. She offers insight into how individuals and couples can move through fear and stigma to create more authentic, fulfilling connections.

This episode is a grounded and accessible guide for anyone curious about polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, or expanding their understanding of love and relationship structure.

What You’ll Learn

• What ethical non-monogamy and polyamory really mean

• Different types of polyamorous relationship structures

• How “infinite love” shifts relationship dynamics

• The role of communication in non-monogamous relationships

• How coaching supports relationship growth and shame work

• Tips for exploring kink and polyamory communities safely

Connect With the Guest

Anneke Elmhirst

Relationship Coach (Polyamory, Kink & Neurodivergence)

Resources from Eve

The Sexual Longevity Protocol: https://pleaseme.online/the-sexual-longevity-protocol/

30-Day Self-Pleasure & Body Reconnection Practices (Free): https://pleaseme.online/the-30-day-self-pleasure-body-reconnection-practices/

Connect With Eve

Website: https://pleaseme.online

Substack: https://pleaseme.substack.com

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