Episode 6 - Fuck 'em this is your life, not theirs

What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't failure, but the fear of what other people might think?

In this episode of Psychics Not Saints, Ainslie MacLeod and Bryan Grijalva explore the hidden power of shame through an unforgettable moment on an Italian beach. While Bryan casually enjoys a daytime cocktail, a local friend reluctantly accepts a drink only to hide it against his chest, worried about being seen. That seemingly ordinary encounter sparks a fascinating conversation about conformity, judgment, and the invisible rules that shape our lives.

Ainslie reflects on leaving a secure career to become a freelance illustrator and, ultimately, a psychic, despite strong resistance from family and friends. Together, they examine how cultural expectations, family conditioning, and even soul-level patterns can keep us trapped in careers, relationships, and identities that no longer fit who we truly are.

Rather than viewing shame as proof that something is wrong, Ainslie offers a powerful perspective: shame can be an "authenticity light" a signal that you're living according to someone else's expectations instead of your own.

If you've ever hesitated to pursue your dreams, express your true self, or make a life-changing decision, this episode will inspire you to stop seeking permission and start living authentically.

Key Takeaways

• Shame is often learned from society rather than carried by the soul.

• Authenticity usually requires disappointing someone else's expectations.

• The need to belong can quietly keep us from living our true purpose.

• Other people's fears often become the loudest voices in our biggest decisions.

• Cultural traditions deserve respect, but they should never imprison your identity.

• Courage grows every time you choose your truth over approval.

• Major life changes almost always invite criticism before they inspire admiration.

• Safety and fulfillment are not always found in the same place.

• Your greatest regrets are more likely to be the risks you never took than the mistakes you made.

• Every career, relationship, and setback teaches your soul something valuable.

• We have far more power to change our lives than we often realize.

• Living authentically is one of the most spiritual acts you can practice.

In This Episode:

• [00:00] Introduction

• [01:04] Judgment in small communities

• [02:10] The gin and tonic on the beach story

• [05:51] The need for acceptance and safety

• [07:30] Coming out as a psychic

• [10:08] Understanding shame

• [12:53] Shame as an authenticity light

• [15:05] A spiritual perspective on shame

• [16:03] Defying expectations and following your path

• [19:53] The courage to be a trailblazer

• [21:49] No mistakes, only lessons

• [23:50] Episode recap and key takeaways

About the Hosts

Ainslie MacLeod is a past-life psychic with over 27 years of professional experience. He uses his abilities to explore past lives, resolve fears and phobias, and help people align with their soul’s intended path. His work began unexpectedly when his deceased uncle appeared to him in Hawaii, a moment that turned a lifelong atheist into a working psychic.

Bryan Grijalva is a medical intuitive and healer with more than 22 years of practice and extensive certifications in various healing modalities. Raised in a psychic Mexican household, he learned early that feeling others’ pain was normal and later mastered the discernment to use that gift for healing. He works extensively with professional athletes, physicians, and everyday people.

Together, they’ve been friends and collaborators for over 15 years.

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