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Will arguing in front of my child cause them harm?

21 min • 21 augusti 2023

What if the arguments you have in front of your children are shaping their future emotional well-being? That's what we're tackling in today's episode with the help of some intriguing science and my background in neuroscience and parenting. We go beyond the surface-level understanding, exploring how even a young child's heart rate can increase and their fight or flight response can be triggered by loud, intense arguments. It's a fascinating discussion that uncovers the significant impact of our behaviors as parents.

We don't just discuss the problem, but we also jump into the solution. We delve into three vital aspects: respect, emotion regulation, and repair, which can make a difference when disagreements happen. With a nod to the insightful work of Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of "I Didn't Sign Up for This," we share resources and tools to help you have healthier arguments and model positive behavior for your children. We emphasize the power of connection and the importance of seeking professional help if needed. This conversation is an essential one for every parent, offering valuable insights into our influence on our children's emotional health and our relationship with them.

Sources:
https://www.jwatch.org/jp201305240000001/2013/05/24/do-sleeping-babies-react-parental-arguments

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-019-01380-1

https://www.curiousneuron.com/blog/2016/8/23/why-we-should-all-learn-to-refrain-from-arguing-in-front-of-a-baby

Resources:

https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/

https://www.gottman.com/

https://www.drtracyd.com/

https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute/

https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/help-for-moms/

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