Why Narcissists Always Blame You (and the AI tool helping you fight back)

In this episode of the Restoring Resilience Podcast, I sit down with Anne Wintemute, the co-founder and CEO of AimeeSays, to discuss a groundbreaking tool designed specifically for survivors of domestic and narcissistic abuse. Unlike standard AI models, AimeeSays is a trauma-informed system that understands the complexities of coercive control, gaslighting, and the systemic hurdles survivors face.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

• 1 in 3 women experience domestic violence—far more common than most people realize.
• Why systems meant to help can misread trauma and re-traumatize survivors.
• How non–trauma-informed tools can give harmful advice in abusive dynamics.
• How trauma-informed AI can help survivors process, document, and be heard—without shutting down emotionally.
• Why "just leave" isn't that simple—and how survivors' attempts to reach out often go unseen

About the Guest: Anne Wintemute is the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says, the AI assistant for victims and survivors of relationship abuse. She is a fierce champion for the rights of survivors and children, and systems that hold perpetrators accountable. Prior to working with survivors, Anne founded and directed an elementary school that became a model for micro schools across the United States. In her spare time, she enjoys urban homesteading with her family in Denver, Colorado.

Resources & Next Steps

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