What if the things you believe about life, love, success, and happiness are backwards? In today’s episode, we’re diving into 10 paradoxes: the little plot twists, contradictions, and life surprises I wish someone had warned me about. Learning these the hard way cost me a lot of time and heartbreak, and my hope is that sharing them now saves you some of yours. Hit play for a big, juicy reality check.
EPISODE OUTLINE
00:00 Intro
01:23 1. The likability paradox
03:12 2. The paradox of choice
06:09 3. The paradox of knowledge
06:52 The Dunning-Kruger Effect
08:22 4. The paradox of failure
09:12 Not choosing is a choice (Jean-Paul Sartre)
10:33 5. The paradox of tolerance (Karl Popper)
11:03 James Baldwin on agreeing to disagree
12:20 6. The paradox of moving on
12:46 Ironic process theory
14:19 7. The paradox of pleasure
15:37 Aristotle's virtue-based happiness
16:08 Viktor Frankl on happiness
17:07 The dopamine trap
18:03 8. The paradox of freedom
18:33 Self-determination theory
20:02 The dizziness of freedom (Kierkegaard)
20:52 9. The paradox of shadow sides (Carl Jung)
22:54 10. The paradox of the comfort zone
24:46 Lightning round recap
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