Loss, Love & Epigenetics: How Nurture Rewrites Our Parenting Journey with Emily Getz | #21

In this powerful and deeply personal episode of Spoil Your Baby, host Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum welcomes Emily Getz—Certified Fertility, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Coach—for a vulnerable and science-rooted conversation on what it means to parent through and after loss, fertility treatment, and donor conception.

Emily shares her story with raw honesty: the emotional weight of navigating fertility trauma, the complexities of carrying a baby not genetically connected to her, and the deep healing work that began even before her baby was born. Greer brings insight from her neuroscience expertise, explaining how epigenetics, maternal neuroplasticity, and early nurture profoundly shape babies—and parents—during the first three years.

This episode is for anyone who’s walked through heartbreak to become a parent. It’s a tender exploration of how love, biology, and nurture intersect to rewrite generational trauma and rewire both our brains and our babies'.

Key Takeaways:

• Nurture during pregnancy and early years biologically shapes baby development
• Parenthood doesn’t start with birth—it begins in the body and brain after conception
• Donor conception creates unique emotional landscapes—but profound connection is still possible
• Pregnancy loss changes the maternal brain and body—even without a surviving child
• Cells from lost pregnancies remain in the body and can pass to future children
• Epigenetics shows how stress and healing are encoded—and how nurture changes everything
• The first three years are a chance for both parent and baby to heal, grow, and transform
• Grief and joy can coexist—and both shape how we attach, love, and parent

More on Emily Getz:

• Website: Day One Fertility
• Podcast: Day One Podcast
• Instagram: @dayonefertility

Ready to Connect with Greer?:

• “Nurture Neuroscience” Website: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgreerkirshenbaum/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/greerkirshenbaum/
• FREE GUIDE, “Nurture Your Baby’s Stress: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/nurture-your-babys-stress
• FREE GUIDE, “Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting”: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/manage-the-stressors-of-parenting
• Order “The Nurture Revolution” Book: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/the-nurture-revolution