Debunking "Bad Marriage Advice" for Temple-Sealed Couples with Monica Tanner

In this thought-provoking episode of Temple Bound, we dive into the controversial truths behind commonly given marriage advice, especially for those sealed in the temple. Monica Tanner, author of Bad Marriage Advice, joins us to challenge traditional perspectives that can unintentionally harm marriages rather than help them.

Monica shares her unique journey from being raised Jewish to converting to the LDS Church and how her 23 years of marriage and decades of coaching have shaped her insights. She reveals why some widely accepted counsel, like "divorce is not an option" or "never go to bed angry," can be damaging when taken as absolute truths.

Learn why agency and choice are essential in marriage, how to recognize and navigate emotional abuse even within a temple-sealed relationship, and why taking pauses during conflict can be a powerful tool for growth. Monica also reflects on her personal motivation for writing this book: a heartfelt letter to her young son as he prepares for marriage.

Whether you’re newlywed, preparing for the temple, or a seasoned spouse, this episode encourages you to rethink rigid marriage advice and embrace a healthier, more honest approach to creating lasting love.

Tune in for:

• Real talk about the myth that “divorce is not an option”
• The importance of choice and accountability in marriage
• Why sometimes "going to bed angry" might be okay
• Practical tips for emotional health and conflict resolution
• Breaking free from harmful cultural expectations around temple marriage

Get ready to expand your horizons and strengthen your most sacred relationship.

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