Ep. 120: What Does Toxic Shame Look Like?

Understanding how your child's - or your - behaviors protect against re-experiencing toxic shame and what it looks like will help you along the way to healing toxic shame.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What behaviors might you see that are related to toxic shame
• How and why behaviors protect us from re-experiencing toxic shame
• How Internal Family Systems helps us make sense of these behaviors
• How toxic shame can protect us from experiencing the grief of aloneness

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's Book: https://robyngobbel.com/book/
The Club: RobynGobbel.com/TheClub
Ilyse Kennedy's book: The Tender Parts: A Guide to Healing Trauma through Internal Family Systems Therapy.

Read a summary or the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/toxicshame2

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