Ep. 150: Why You Can Know What to Do and Still Not Do It?!

You’ve probably wondered how you can know the neuroscience of behavior and have a toolbox full of tools…and still struggle to actually USE those tools.

Most parents have the thought “If I know what to do, why aren’t I actually doing it???”

It’s not because you’re a bad parent.

It’s because you’re dysregulated, have a sensitized stress response system, and probably have some implicit memories that leave you vulnerable to being triggered.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• How very little of our behavior comes from conscious thought
• Why your sensitized stress response system leaves you vulnerable
• Why regulated, connected parents who feel safe parent the way they want to

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors released September 21. CLICK HERE to choose from a variety of pre-order bonuses, including a signed copy or 20% off.
• When Parenting is Traumatic {EP 95}
• Beginning of the memory series: Trauma, Memory, & Behavior Part 1 {EP 90}
  
  

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/knowwhattodo

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