EP 179: Is Regulated The Goal?

I’m sure you often feel like ‘getting your kid regulated’ is a very important goal!

But- is it? Is regulated the goal? And is it possible to even consider these kinds of questions when we are parenting very dysregulated kids with very dangerous behaviors?

In this episode, you’ll learn

• The difference between a moment of being regulated and having a regulated (balanced) nervous system
• How regulation and dysregulation must coexist
• Why thinking about any of this high-level stuff when you have REAL PROBLEMS TO REALLY ADDRESS can be helpful

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Regulated Does Not Equal Calm https://RobynGobbel.com/lisadion

Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/regulatedthegoal

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