305: Working with Narcissism in Couples Therapy with Wendy Behary

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In this episode, Shane talks with Wendy Behary about working with narcissism in couples therapy. Wendy is the Bestselling Author of Disarming the Narcissist and the Founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. Hear how the perception of narcissism has changed over the past 30 years, what narcissism looks like in a relationship, how to think about leverage when it comes to couples therapy, how to empower the partner of a narcissist, and why schema therapy is a good fit for these types of relationships.

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You can also listen to Wendy Behary on Episode 82 & Episode 210 of The Couples Therapist Couch