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The Empowering Parents Podcast – Child Behavior Help The Total Transformation Way

You Are Not To Blame for Your Child’s Behavior

9 min • 9 maj 2023

Blaming yourself for your child's behavior makes you feel terrible, and it doesn't help your child. A better approach is to focus on holding your child accountable. Here's how.

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