#153 When Being a Good Person Produces Bad Results

Being good is not enoughMost of our default thinking is that if we’re a good person it will be enough. That’s just not true!You can be a good person and a piss poor husbandYou can be a good person and a lousy loverYou can be a good person and a poor loserYou could be a good person and be terribly unproductiveYou can be a good person and a lousy listenerYou could be a good person distracted absent fatherYou can be a good person and a terrible businessmanYou can be a good person and a very Foolish investorYou can be a good person and a flimsy friendYou can be a good person and an unresponsive sonYou can be a good person and totally ignorant and uneducatedYou can be a good person and clueless to what’s going on around you and the needs of other peopleNow if you’re not good at tennis, that’s OK. If you want to be good at it you can work on it. If you don’t want to be good at it then you don’t have to do anything.But that’s not true of the other areas of your life like marriage and parenting and work and contribution and connectionIn my mind working on those skills is nonnegotiable.If you have children, for example, then you have A moral obligation to become a good parent with fully developed parenting skillsIf you want to have a great marriage, healthy kids, and a good relationship with them, if you want to have friends, if you want to make a difference in the world, if you work, then you simply cannot settle for merely being a good personWe have to stop sucking at the things that really matter especially if it’s because we’re succeeding in the things that don’t

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