In this inspiring episode of the Transformational Interview Series, Jim sits down with Roel Van Oostenbruggen, a TCP graduate who transformed his life by confronting his deepest fears. From feeling the pressure to “do it right” to overcoming lifelong patterns of anxiety and self-doubt, Roel’s story is a raw, relatable look at what it takes to break free from fear-driven living and reclaim your personal power.
Roel shares how his fear showed up in hidden ways—in his marriage, parenting, money mindset, and even in starting his business—and how TCP gave him the tools to finally stop letting fear dictate his choices. You’ll hear the pivotal moments when he recognized that anger was masking fear, the mindset shifts that allowed him to become more present with his family, and how embracing discomfort opened the door to authentic confidence and connection.
If you’ve ever let fear keep you from living fully—or doubted your ability to change—this conversation will show you that transformation is possible when you’re willing to see yourself clearly and step into your power.
What You’ll Discover in This Episode:
The “Stick Behind the Door” Approach to Showing Up Fully (03:13)
Why investing in yourself creates the commitment needed for deep transformation.
From Perfectionism to Progress (07:32)
How Roel broke free from the need to “do it right” and started embracing growth over perfection.
Recognizing Fear in Disguise (10:19)
The moment Roel realized that his anger was actually fear—and how that awareness changed everything.
How Facing Fear Strengthened His Marriage and Parenting (17:58)
The surprising ways personal transformation improved his relationship and parenting presence.
The Turning Point in His Business Confidence (27:07)
How he stopped avoiding self-promotion and began naturally attracting clients.
Why Pressure Can Be the Forge for Your Potential (28:14)
Reframing pressure as a growth tool instead of something to avoid.
The Master Thought Formula in Action (31:09)
How Roel used this TCP tool to handle a stressful business situation with clarity and calm.
Listen, apply, and enjoy!
Transformational Takeaway
Fear will rob you of your highest potential if you let it. As Roel discovered, the key isn’t to eliminate fear—it’s to stop making decisions from it. When you recognize fear for what it is and choose to act from your values instead, you step into your true power. Life becomes less about avoiding discomfort and more about leaning into it, knowing you have the strength to handle whatever comes your way.
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Jim
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