The Follow-Up: The Default Parent Dilemma

Ever feel like you're the one who just knows when the Band-Aids are running low? The one who remembers the pediatrician’s number, tracks school spirit days, and anticipates every snack, schedule, and meltdown?

You might be the default parent—and you’re not alone.

In this week’s Follow-Up episode, we dig into the invisible labor of parenting: who carries it, how it ends up falling on one partner (often moms), and what it takes to shift those dynamics without resentment.

We talk about:

• What the default parent role actually is—and how to know if you're in it

• Why moms in particular fall into this role (hint: it’s not just about who works more)

• How cultural expectations of “intensive mothering” set us up for burnout

• The slow unraveling of guilt, identity, and control so many of us face

• Practical strategies and mindset shifts that help partners share the load

Whether you're feeling overstretched or trying to find more balance in your home, this episode is a validating, honest, and empowering listen.

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