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146 Triangulation and Misguided Hope with Matthias Roberts

37 min • 13 november 2023

Friend and fellow therapist Matthias Roberts joins me today to share a very vulnerable story involving triangulation with his mother. How does an adolescent boy answer his Mom’s questions about his homosexuality when Mom is disgusted by it? This is a story about Matthias’ deep love for God… and the torment he felt as a result. We talk about Matthias’ immense hope that God would “heal” his sexuality and how he came to feel God’s blessing rather than shame.

146 Triangulation and Misguided Hope with Matthias Roberts

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125 Spiritual Wounding: What It Is and How To Heal Part 2

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