From Closeted Mormons to Gay Dads of Three

Jake and Sean never expected a conversation on Grindr to lead to marriage, parenthood, and three kids at once.

Raised in conservative Mormon families, both men spent years trying to reconcile their faith with their sexuality. In this episode, they share how they met while still closeted, fell in love while trying to "find wives," navigated coming out, left the LDS church, and eventually built their family through surrogacy.

They also open up about pregnancy loss, the emotional realities of family building, and the unforgettable moment they learned they weren't having one baby—or even two—but triplets.

It's a beautiful conversation about faith, love, resilience, and creating the family you once thought was impossible.

🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

• Growing up Mormon and realizing they were gay
• Meeting on Grindr while trying to "find wives"
• The pressure of faith, repentance, and belonging
• Coming out to their families
• Leaving the LDS church together
• Building careers with family as the goal
• Choosing an egg donor and creating embryos
• Pregnancy loss and the emotional toll of surrogacy
• The shocking ultrasound that revealed triplets
• Raising triplets as gay dads
• How they talk to their children about surrogacy and donor conception
• Breaking cycles of shame and creating a different future for their kids

🏳️‍🌈 About the guest(s)

Jake and Sean are Utah-based dads to triplets, former Mormons, real estate professionals, and LGBTQ+ family advocates. Through their social media platform, @daddiestothree, they share the joys, challenges, and everyday realities of raising triplets while helping normalize queer families for millions of viewers. Their story of faith, love, surrogacy, and parenthood has inspired families around the world..

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