David Byrne on How Music Connects Us

Music helped former Talking Heads frontman David Byrne come out of his shell and connect with others—and research shows he's not alone. We explore the science behind how music shapes our social lives.

Summary: Musician and artist David Byrne reflects on how music opened his world as a shy kid, offering both an outlet and a sense of belonging. We delve into the science behind music's social power and how it can offer both personal transformation and collective healing.

How To Do This Practice:

1. Tune Into What Moves You: Think back to the first songs or sounds that made you feel something—excitement, belonging, or wonder. Create a playlist that reflects those emotions or moments.
2. Create Space to Listen Deeply: Put away distractions and really listen. Whether it's on a walk, lying down, or with headphones. Let the rhythm, lyrics, or mood take you somewhere new.
3. Use Music as a Mirror: Notice how the music reflects your mood, identity, or desires. Ask yourself: What is this music helping me feel or understand about myself?
4. Make Music, Even Imperfectly: Play an instrument, sing in the car, hum along. Do whatever feels natural. Self-expression through music doesn’t require perfection, only sincerity.
5. Share It With Others: Invite someone to listen with you, send a favorite song to a friend, or sing with a group. Social connection strengthens when we engage in music together.
6. Let Music Move You Into Action or Insight: Reflect on what the music stirs in you. Does it inspire creativity, protest, healing, or joy? Let that feeling guide how you show up in the world.

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Today’s Guests:

DAVID BYRNE is an artist, writer, filmmaker, record producer, and frontman and guitarist for the band Talking Heads.

Visit David Byrne’s official website here: https://whoisthesky.davidbyrne.com/

PATRICK SAVAGE is an associate professor in the Faculty of Environment and Information Studies at Keio University in Japan.

Learn more about Patrick Savage here: https://tokyo.mutek.org/en/speakers/patrick-savage

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How Music Can Hold and Heal Us: https://tinyurl.com/49svzn4v

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