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Girls be like I needed this and its just boundaries and their bed... Wellness isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real — and that starts with stopping the cycle of people pleasing.

This one’s for my recovering “nice girls,” my people pleasers, and anyone who’s tired of saying “yes” when they really mean “no.”

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking:

• What people pleasing actually looks like (it’s sneakier than you think)

• Why so many of us learned to put others first at the cost of our own peace

• How to gently but powerfully break the habit

• A big sister pep talk to help you reclaim your voice, your time, and your energy

If you’ve been feeling drained, resentful, or like you don’t even know what you want anymore… this episode is your reset. You’re allowed to have needs. You’re allowed to disappoint people. You’re allowed to take up space.

Let this be your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as your full self — messy, honest, worthy.

🎧 Tune in and take your power back.

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It’s giving healing and having fun. In today’s episode, we’re catching up like girlfriends on FaceTime over matcha on everything that’s been saving me this spring—new hobbies (hello tennis era), current favorites, fashion trends, recipes, and little life upgrades that have been helping me feel more like me again. I’m also getting real about moving through a breakup, why it's okay to still grieve your past while building a better future, and how embracing girlhood joy has been my biggest act of self-love lately. If you're looking for inspiration, motivation, and a reminder that you're doing amazing even if you're figuring it out as you go—this episode is for you.

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It’s time to stop spiralling and start protecting your peace. In this episode, we’re entering our unbothered queen era—because not everything (or everyone) deserves a reaction. If you’ve been feeling overstimulated, easily triggered, or lowkey exhausted by the noise… this one’s for you.

Think of this as your guide to walking through life like the main character—even when people try to test your vibe.

Mood: Do Not Disturb. Inner peace is the new flex. Let’s get into it.

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The Ultimate Healing Girl Era Guide (No, We're Not Downloading Hinge) Today’s episode is for the girlies going through it — maybe it’s your first breakup, maybe your heart’s still hurting months later, or maybe you’re just entering your healing era and everyone keeps asking why you’re not back on the apps yet ...

Well guess what? You’re not “behind.” You don’t need a new boyfriend. You need you right now. And this episode is your cozy little corner of the internet to feel seen, heard, and so validated.

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Summer is coming faster than we think and today's episode is your loving reminder to lock in now so you can feel strong, confident, energized, and glowing when the sunshine hits.

This episode isn't about looking a certain way — it's about feeling your best from the inside out. I'm giving you a pep talk to stop waiting for motivation to magically show up and start creating your dream summer self today.

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If you’ve been feeling behind in life, struggling with burnout, or trying to help someone with unhealthy habits (without losing your own sanity), this one’s for you. In Todays episode Trin reads questions from The Wellness Cafe community in an advice column!!

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Making friends as an adult can feel impossible—but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, we’re getting real about the struggles of making friends in your twenties and breaking down exactly what you can do to build your dream friend group. From putting yourself out there to actually keeping friendships alive, consider this your step-by-step guide to attracting meaningful connections

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Okay, diva —so you wanna be an influencer? Let’s talk about it. Today, Trin's spilling the tea on what it really takes to start posting online and start working with brands (even if you’re starting from zero). No fluff, no fake vibes—just real talk about showing up, staying consistent, and making social media work for you.

So grab your matcha (or an iced latte, we don’t judge), get comfy, and let’s dive in.

♡ Why consistency is your bestie

♡ How to start landing brand deals (even with a small following!)

♡ Contract terms & Setting content rates

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This week, we’re talking about how to actually feel your best this summer—without restricting, hating your workouts, or falling for toxic diet trends. Because hot girl summer isn’t about being a certain size. It’s about feeling strong, confident, and glowing from the inside out.

This week, Trin get's real about why those “get-skinny-fast” fads never actually work—and why they leave you feeling worse in the long run. Instead, we’re spilling the real secrets to looking and feeling your best this summer (and beyond). Spoiler alert: It’s all about sustainable habits, loving your body through the process, and making changes that actually last.

So grab your matcha, settle in, and let’s chat. We’re breaking down:
♡ Why crash diets are a scam (and what they do to your body)
♡ How to build a routine that feels good (no more restriction, just balance)
♡ Small, daily habits that help you feel confident all year—not just for summer
♡The mindset shift that makes healthy living way easier (promise!)

Your big sis moment? You don’t need a “summer body.” You already have one!! But if you want to feel stronger, more energized, and glowing this season, let’s do it the right way, no quick fixes—just real results and lifestyle changes.

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Lock in Divas, the sun is peeking out, the flowers are blooming, and it’s officially time for a spring reset. If winter had you in hibernation mode, this episode is your sign to refresh your routine, clear out the mental (and physical) clutter, and step into your best, most radiant self. In todays episode Trin is breaking down the ultimate Spring Reset Checklist to help you shake off the winter uglies, romanticize your life, and get back in alignment with your goals.

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get a cute workout set on and get walking because today we’re getting real. I just turned 25 (!?!) and am reflecting on everything—the highs, the lows, the lessons that shaped me, and the moments that made me who I am today. If you’re navigating your twenties (or just love a good life chat), this episode is for you.

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Ever struggled to get back into a routine after a break? Whether it’s work, studying, a breakup, or even vacation getting started again can feel impossible. In Todays episode Trin shares 5 ways that are guaranteed to help get you back into routine!

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Maintaining routine when tired and stressed, dealing with the winter uglies and how to get your energy up !!

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Listen if you're going through a tough time. We all go through slumps—those times when motivation feels nonexistent, productivity slows, and everything seems like a struggle. In this episode, Trin break down how to get out of a slump and positive affirmations for your healing era ♡

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isten if you're going through a breakup, lets heal together in 2025
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