TU100: Reflections and Favorites From 100 Episodes
54 min•8 juli 2019
100 Episodes and Going Strong! A Review of Our Most Popular and Referenced Episodes
Tune in for a review of our listener’s favorite episodes and back stories about the evolution of Therapist Uncensored with co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott. This is a show hosted by 2 therapists who share the most usable science on attachment relationships, psychotherapy, and trauma. It combines both host lead conversations and interviews with top experts in their respective fields – neuroscientists, therapists, researchers, musicians, pop-culture celebrities, and so on – that share their wisdom about relationships.
Today we celebrate starting with colleague Patty Olwell, and evolving everything from our messaging, our website, our audio and editing, and our co-host relationship.
This is the last show of Season 3, BUT we will be back with new shows by early September. In the meantime, we will be re-playing some of these favorites. We look forward to our next season of deepening our conversations on attachment, neuroscience, polyvagal theory, depth psychotherapy, sexuality, and more!
Most Popular Episodes By Everyone, Including Us!Known as “the bundle” of attachment, these episodes summarize the attachment spectrum and have building security at their core. They are, by far, the most referenced, reviewed, and appreciated!
Episode 59: Dismissing/Avoidant attachment. Are you cool or just cut off? Episode 60: Preoccupation in Relationships-Grow your security by learning signs of Anxious Attachment Episode 61: It’s not crazy, it’s just a solution to an unsolvable problem – Disorganized Attachment Other Popular Episodes Include:*Note: listed in order of discussion plus a brief summary of the show conversation
Episode 54- The Stress Response System –Attachment Across the Lifespan- specifically looking at the elder years and how our attachment system affects us as caretakers of our parents or as the senior who may be undergoing the various losses inherent in aging.
- The father of Polyvagal Theory!
- fat led to groundbreaking shifts in our understanding of how the nervous system responds to threat and trauma.
- Father of interpersonal neurobiology
- Discussed how the current political, international and climate crises could be viewed as a chance to transform human connection. He called for us all to become pervasive leaders.
- If you’ve ever wanted to know how much you can predict a person’s development years in advance, then you’ll enjoy our conversation with Dr. Alan Sroufe.
- his research findings over the years and how insecure and secure attachment tendencies can develop and affect an individual through their lives.
- discussed how exercising “happy humility” and compassion can allow for an ideal presence in our day-to-day life using our autonomic nervous system.
- Sympathetic activation happens when there’s a need to control something in light of an obstacle.
- Internal systems challenge to remain in an open and receptive state.
- One of the originators of attachment theory
- studied under Mary Ainsworth
Stan Tatkin – Episode 12: If It’s Not Good For You, It’s Not Good For Us
- talking about understanding how attachment plays out in Long term relationships
- In order to get over hidden shame, you need to expose it to safe people.
- Shame can only be healed interpersonally.
- Different cultures social constructions of shame.
- Joining in sharing shame is very powerful tool. Connecting right brain to right brain.
Popular Episodes On Sexuality Episode 3: Different Sex Drives Are We Screwed? Esther Perel – Episode 46: Redefining Infidelity – On Love and Desire in Modern Relationships Dr Susan Ansorage – Episode 71: Speakably Sexy: Communicating To Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More Alive Doug Braun-Harvey – Episode 42 & Episode 43: Sexual Vitality-Refreshing Our Understanding of Sexual Health
- Discussing love and desire in intimate relationships.
- promote ways of having a healthy dialogue with partners – deshames sexual desire differences, and
- Research on how sexuality can manifest differently in our bodies
- we often make assumptions based on our own experiences of sexuality…what our partner(s) are feeling and this leads to hurt and misunderstanding.
- The rule of variability – speaking in gendered terms is not our aim – but recognizing the differences in sex drives, sex roles and physiology can be useful.
- 6 principles of sexual health – add pleasure back into the conversation about healthy sex ,and the whole conversation changes
- The balance between pleasure and safety as a way to think of sexual health – “Sexual debut” vs losing our virginity“
Taking on current events and helping to draw out the science about how our headlines are related to attachment and neuroscience of everyday living and stress.
Episode 41: How To Handle Post Election Tensions – Tips for the Holidays and Beyond Episode 68: Separation at the Border, Compounding trauma and Insecurity- Relational science professionals have a lot to offer to understand the human rights event that is unfolding on the US-Mexico border.
- Our podcast has been all about promoting security in ourselves and our loved ones, and a primary component to this is access to your caregiver when you are young. It effects our biology, or persistent sense of ourselves and our view of the world.
- Long term effect on these children-citizens of the world – our neighbors. If we help to breed insecure attachment, what long term effects does it have?
- Bringing in Polyvagal theory into such a HUGE and important dialogue- the freeze response in sexual trauma which surrounds shame, the deepening of trauma, why people hold back reporting due to shame and the misunderstanding of this in interpreting what is abuse
- Attachment is about safety rather than secure connection-if we sense a safe, out of danger, we can then activate the present and empathetic response of connection with higher regions of our mind/body moving from autonomic nervous system to social engagement
- Goal of our podcast was to bring this kind of wisdom and insight from scholars about treatment to our listeners and these two are invaluable!
- Both discuss es the 3 essential ingredients of effective and efficient treatment for many clinical issues such as anxiety, depression, addiction, PTSD and personality disorders.
- Both discuss treatment on the anxious preoccupied side of the attachment spectrum (red side of the spectrum) and rectifying impaired self-development, chronic levels of anxiety, and chronic compulsive caretaking
- boundaries have nothing to do with whether you love someone or not. They are not punishments, judgments or betrayals.
- “Jello wall”: Stop and slow down all the input coming towards you so you can ask, “Is this true or not true?” and “If it is, is this about me or not about me?” This allows you to view the world around you without getting hurt. Allows you space to reflect and be in your own system.
- Differentiating shame and guilt. Shamelessness and debilitating shame are both toxic and yet there is a version of these feeling that is quite healthy.
- we discuss the contemporary research and the biology of this emotion and practical implications for your everyday life. Shaming and repairing is healthy, never shaming is not. Guilt is really healthy shame.
- Physical effect of shame and biology.
- How we can impact our everyday relationships at work. Bring up specific examples of approaching your child with more delight, your coworkers etc
- People seemed to really like the applicable nature of this one
- Sit up, eye contact, gentle smile, slow down, ground self (methods) prepare and practice
- This is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it’s real science.
- Learn the important distinction self-esteem and self-compassion
- one can lead to psychological instability, self-criticism, stress, competition and difficulty within ourselves, our relationships and our culture.
- Treating yourself as your own best friend.
- It’s NOT a free pass, or being easy on yourself.
- It can be “fierce” and “protective” and “motivating.”
- irreverent and bitingly honest insights on the dating scene and relationships that survive.
- Doc decades of listening to the lives, troubles and fantasies of Austin’s singles.
- Find out how people make assumptions about others and tend to overestimate themselves when finding a partner.
- Bottom line: based on your dating profile, would you date yourself? Have fun with this one and check out his column below!
- Mirroring hands
- Episode 52: Using mindfulness Movement and Yoga to Manage Arousal
- Episode 52.5: Meditation
- Episode 63 Living with Cancer: The 6 Principles of Emotional Healing insight both for those directly experiencing the trauma of cancer and for those who love and support them.
- specific interventions and meditations that foster brain plasticity and empathy towards ourselves and others
- They explore what kinds of language can we use that lets brains relax and move into a space of fluidity
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