When You Quit and They Don't

Trigger warning: This episode contains references to disordered eating and the death of a parent following a medical complication.

“I'm actually on day twenty-six alcohol-free right now, the first time since I was pregnant with my daughter,” Bethany says. Bev has been counting differently: hers started January 13th, and her husband hasn't missed a single one of his own drinking nights since. Bethany and Bev work with Coaches Hayley and Cole on how to quit drinking when your spouse still drinks.

Bethany discusses:

• The exact moment four years ago that changed everything, and the nights she still can't escape it

• Why she calls herself a “cheater” when it comes to quitting, and what she means by it

• The one word she used to describe what alcohol really was to her

• What Coach Hayley asked her about her father, and what Bethany said back

Bev discusses:

• A resentment she didn't know she was carrying, until the alcohol was gone and there was nowhere left to hide it

• Living with a cancer diagnosis that makes quitting drinking a matter of life and death

• The one sentence about her marriage she's never said out loud, not even to her husband

• What Coach Cole told her to do about a husband who won't quit too, and why it wasn't what she expected

• And more…

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Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

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