Why Your Toddler Resists Everything (And What to Do About It)

Struggling with toddler resistance? This episode breaks down why your child says "no" to everything and how to work with their natural instincts instead of against them.

What You'll Learn

• What the "You-Can't-Make-Me" reflex is and why it's actually healthy
• Why toddler brains react with automatic resistance
• Common triggers (commands, transitions, feeling rushed)
• What makes things worse (power struggles, taking it personally)
• Practical strategies for daily routines

Key Takeaways

• The reflex is developmental, not defiance
• Invite cooperation instead of demanding it
• Connection is the strongest antidote to resistance
• Stay calm and confident—you're the CEO
• Give choices to preserve their sense of control

Quick Tips

• Replace commands with invitations
• Give transition warnings
• Pause when resistance peaks
• Use collaborative language
• Fill their connection tank with one-on-one time

Resources

Toddlers Made Easy

Help! My Child Will Only Poop In A Diaper Waitlist

Toddlers Made Easy, the book

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