Balancing career, kids & everything else with our family framework

This week on Two Parents & A Podcast, happy Friday!! As you guys know, last Saturday we spoke at Dear Media by Day, and our panel was called “Having It All-ish: Career, Kids & the New Reality of Balance.” We had SO much fun up there that we knew before we left the stage: we had to bring it to you guys. So consider this the run-back.. and if you were there, act surprised lol

Here's the premise: we were told we could have it all. The career, the relationship, the family, the social life, and somehow eight hours of sleep. But like HOW?! For us, the honest answer is a system we've never fully explained on the pod until now: our FAMILY FRAMEWORK. The six buckets we value most as a couple, ranked 1 to 10, monitored constantly. When they're full, we're happy. When one dips, we don't wing it.. we name it, and we play offense.

We get into how the buckets came to be (Harrison's observation that the richest people he knew weren't the happiest.. the most balanced ones were), and then we deep dive ONE bucket (relationship) as an example (but NOTE: the same principles can be applied across all!!). You'll hear how the framework catches the slow slide before it becomes resentment, the exact language we use to bring something up without putting each other on defense, and the math for deciding where the energy goes: taking a bucket from a 3 to a 7 beats polishing a 9 to a 10. And if you're someone who gets overwhelmed easily, this might be the most useful part: "I'm overwhelmed" becomes "THIS bucket is overwhelming me," and suddenly it's solvable.

Then the career section: how having kids changed our ambition (short version: career ambition unchanged, LIFE ambition never higher), the sacrifices we have and haven't made, and the misconception we each had about kids before vs. after. 

And your questions from the panel: do we still believe in balance now that we have kids (more than ever, actually), what Alex has stopped feeling guilty about in motherhood, what to do if you're scared kids will derail your career momentum, and how to decide what deserves your energy.. which turned out to literally be the buckets hahaha

Tell us in the comments: which bucket are you focused on right now?

THANK YOU FOR LISTENING, and happy weekend :-)

Timestamps:

00:00:00 Welcome back to Two Parents & A Podcast!

00:00:54: Why we're running the panel back for YOU (if you were there.. act surprised lol)

00:01:23 Introduction to our family framework

00:05:45 How the 6 buckets came to be… 

00:09:24 Bucket deep dive: Relationship 

00:14:01 How we decide which bucket gets our energy

00:15:55 THIS is why the family framework is so helpful 

00:18:09 Career Q: How has having kids changed your ambition?

00:27:17 Career Q: The career sacrifices we have & haven't made since kids

00:25:09 Career Q: One misconception we had about kids.. before vs. after

00:27:03 Audience Q: Now that you have kids, do you still believe in balance?

00:28:15 Audience Q: What have you stopped feeling guilty about in motherhood?

00:29:56 Audience Q: I'm scared kids will derail my career momentum.. help?

00:33:18 Audience Q: How do I decide what deserves my energy?!

00:34:43 Our closing thoughts

THANK YOU FOR LISTENING! 

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