18. 3 Perspective Shifts for More Peaceful Relationships

For the first three years of my marriage, I struggled to see my husband's and my differences in a helpful light. I was quick to judge, condemn, accuse, and go into an emotional spiral.

While I am still actively letting go of these natural man tendencies, since becoming a mom I have gained some perspectives that have blessed me with an abundant supply of compassion and patience for ALL humans. Not just my kids, but also my husband and myself.

In this episode I'm sharing the three perspective shifts that have helped me the most:

1. ​Everything is already exactly as it should be
2. ​We are all grownup toddlers
3. ​Reframe differences as skill-based rather than character deficits

I'm so grateful that marriage has given me endless opportunities to learn and grow. It wouldn't be possible without my patient and forgiving husband.

Resources Mentioned:

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Episodes 15 & 16 of Walk Beside Me (deep dive on punishment—I accidentally said episodes 16 & 17 but I meant these ones 🙃)