"Are You Mad at Me?" When Kids Live to Please

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It's a good thing to be aware of the emotions and needs of the people around us. For some kids, it can tip into hypersensitivity to others' emotions, people-pleasing behaviors, and asking if people are mad at them approximately twenty times a day. How can we help? (And is it way worse for girls?)

In this episode, hosts Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables discuss:

• What empirical studies of gender differences in emotion really show
• How empathy can correlate with social anxiety
• Strategies for highly empathetic people to disentangle themselves from others' emotions

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

• Our "How to Yell Less" episode
• Toni Bernhard J.D. for Psychology Today: It's Time to Stop Taking Things Personally
• Connie Chang for Parents Magazine: How to Help Your Sensitive, Deeply Feeling Kid Handle an Overwhelming World
• Kateri McRae et. al in Group Processes & Intergroup Relations Journal: Gender Differences in Emotion Regulation: An fMRI Study of Cognitive Reappraisal
• Athena Chan for The International Business Times: Are Women More Emotional Than Men? Not Really, Study Finds
• Kim Elsesser for Forbes Magazine: Labeling Women As ‘Emotional’ Undermines Their Credibility, New Study Shows
• Teresa J. Frasca et. al for Psychology of Women Quarterly: Words Like Weapons: Labeling Women As Emotional During a Disagreement Negatively Affects the Perceived Legitimacy of Their Arguments
• Zawn Villines for Medical News Today: Empaths and anxiety: Is there a link?
• Merle-Marie Pittelkow et. al for Journal of Anxiety Disorders: Social Anxiety and Empathy: A Systematic Review and Meta-analysis
• Sohee Jun for Forbes Magazine: Ways to Stop People-Pleasing

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What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson.

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