120: How to Raise a Child Who Uses Their Uniqueness to Create Happiness (RE-RELEASE)

I've heard from listeners that what they call "The Dark Horse Episode," the interview with Dr. Todd Rose, that this is one of their favorite conversations on the podcast, and for this reason I'm doing something I've never done before: reissuing that episode.  Dr. Rose and I discussed ways to personalize children's learning to help them truly discover and live their full potential - both academically and personally (and even getting rid of that distinction entirely...).   Check out what listeners who subsequently joined the Learning Membership said in our private community before the membership had even officially started:     Click the banner to learn more!     Jump to highlights 00:27 Introduction to the episode and guest Dr. Todd Rose 11:45 What is a "dark horse"? 13:30 Pursuing personal fulfillment over standardized success 14:58 What actually makes for good learning: engagement, relevance, autonomy 18:44 Pervasive individuality: why the "average" learner doesn't exist 21:37 A personalized nutrition example that reveals the flaw in group averages 23:35 Three different pathways children take to learn to read 30:03 Todd's story: how his dad's advice got him through the GRE 36:14 What standardization means for children of non-dominant cultures 38:10 The hidden trade-off schools make: sameness over self-knowledge 44:48 Micro motives: the small, specific things that truly drive us 53:56 Two common dark horse paths, and a third one we could choose instead 01:04:49 Why children need real agency, not just small choices 01:07:41 Rethinking meritocracy: equal chance versus equal fit 01:11:00 Why change should start with the most marginalized communities   References Cantor, P., Osher, D., Berg, J., Steyer, L., & Rose, T. (2019). Malleability, plasticity, and individuality: How children learn and develop in context. Applied Developmental Science 23(4), 307-337.

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Mischel, W. (2004). Toward an integrative science of the person. Annual Review of Psychology 55, 1-22.

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Osher, D., Cantor, P., Berg, J., Steyer, L., & Rose, T. (2018). Drivers of human development: How relationships and context shape learning and development. Applied Developmental Science, 1-31.

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Osher, D., Cantor, P., Berg, J., Steyer, L., & Rose, T. (January 2017). Science of learning and development: A synthesis. American Institutes for Research. Downloaded from: https://www.air.org/sites/default/files/downloads/report/Science-of-Learning-and-Development-Synthesis-Osher-January-2017.pdf

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Rose, T., & Ogas, O. (2018). Dark Horse: Achieving success through the pursuit of fulfillment. New York, NY: HarperCollins.

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Rose, T., McMahon, G.T., Saxberg, B., & Christensen, U.J. (2018). Learning in the 21st Century: Concepts and tools. Clinical Chemistry 64(10), 1423-1429.

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Rose, T. (2015). The end of average: How we succeed in a world that values sameness. New York, NY: HarperCollins.

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Rose, L.T., Rouhani, P., & Fischer, K.W. (2013). The science of the individual. Mind, Brain, and Education 7(3), 152-158.