SYPM 001: Mindfulness with Jess Barnes

Welcome to the first episode in a new series that I’m calling Sharing Your Parenting Mojo, where I interview listeners about what they’ve learned from the show as well as the parenting challenges they’re facing.  Today we talk with Ontario, Canada-based listener Jess Barnes, a registered social worker and parent of almost-two about a mindfulness tool that can help us to stay calm when our children push our buttons.   If you’d like to be interviewed for Sharing Your Parenting Mojo, please complete the form located here and I’ll be in touch if there’s a fit…  

Taming Your Triggers

If you need help with your own big feelings about your child’s behavior, register for the Taming Your Triggers workshop! We’ll help you to:

• Understand the real causes of your triggered feelings, and begin to heal the hurts that cause them
• Use new tools like the ones Katie describes to find ways to meet both her and her children’s needs
• Effectively repair with your children on the fewer instances when you are still triggered

  Jump to highlights 00:57 Introduction to the episode and guest Jess 02:52 What the White privilege and racism episodes meant to Jess 04:23 Facing racism in the Canadian context 05:43 Developmentally appropriate expectations and toddler memory 08:32 Recognizing our own triggers as parents 09:38 Rethinking manners: modeling gratitude instead of demanding it 11:56 "Quality time" versus "once nothing" quality time with a baby 15:19 Changing our own reactions instead of trying to change a child's behavior 15:31 A three-step pause practice for the moment something goes wrong 18:04 Bringing the pause practice into a child's own bedtime routine